Squirting during sex may seem like something you either can or can’t do.
It’s when clear, watery fluid comes out of the urethra during or right before orgasm, and we very commonly see it in porn.
Female porn stars seem to so often effortlessly squirt during sex, and it can feel like that act is held in high regard by men as a major turn on.
But if you’re a woman who hasn’t ever squirted or struggles to, it can be a bit demoralising if you want to, or your partner wants you to.
Obviously you can have great, mind-blowing sex without doing this, but if it’s something you’d like to try, we’ve got good news – with time, practice and the right stimulation, you could squirt.
Five simple tips on how to squirt
1. Create the right environment
Like with any sexual act, you have to be in the mood and in the right frame of mind.
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Dr Danae Maragouthakis, from Yoxly, an Oxford-based sexual health start-up, shared this starting tip on Instagram, explaining atmosphere is key.
She said: ‘Create a comfortable and relaxed atmosphere where both partners feel at ease, and discuss things first.’
Communication is essential to understand your desires, boundaries and concerns, according to Dr Maragouthakis, and we couldn’t agree more.
If you’re going into sex with the intention of trying to squirt, make sure your partner is aware of this and explain in detail what you’d like to happen so they know how to help you along.
You can explain that attempting to squirt could take a while, so your partner will know not to get ahead of themselves.
If you’re having solo sex, this doesn’t apply, but it still helps to set the mood for yourself.
2. Partake in a lot of foreplay
Another tip from Dr Maragouthakis is to focus on the foreplay and allow your partner to build your arousal gradually.
‘This can include kissing, caressing, and exploring each other’s bodies with both mouth and hands,’ she said.
You’ll want to make sure your erogenous zones are being stimulated for prolonged periods of time.
Erogenous zones you may not know of include the perineum (between the anus and vagina or anus and scrotum), your bellybutton, your neck, lower back, ears, hands and fingertips and inner thigh.
More niche ones include the scalp, behind the knee, ankles, armpits and the inner wrist. Stimulate as many as you can with your hands, mouth and body to give yourself and your partner the ultimate sexual experience.
3. Hit the G-spot
German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg first described the orgasm-producing area (now known as the G-spot) in the 1950s, although he didn’t coin the term.
He was the first to scientifically recognise an ‘erotic zone’ located ‘on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra.’
The G-spot was named in his honour by Dr Frank Addiego and colleagues, who wrote about female ejaculation in the 1980s.
It’s this very spot that is the ‘key’ to your ability to squirt. It is likely to induce squirting if continually stimulated.
‘Use fingers, a curved toy, or sex positions that target the G-spot to apply gentle pressure and strokes to this area,’ Dr Maragouthakis explained.
Experiment with what stimulation feels good for you, and remember to be patient. Your body could take a while to work up to this newfound sensation if you’re trying this for the first time.
4. Generously apply lube
Having dry sex is uncomfortable, to say the least. The last thing you want, if you’re trying to squirt, is for it to feel like sandpaper down there.
This is where lube comes in. Dr Maragouthakis said: ‘Using lubricant enhances her comfort and pleasure during stimulation. It helps reduce friction and allows for smoother movements, especially during G-spot stimulation.’
If your partner is using a condom then you’ll definitely want to use some lube to prevent friction, but just make sure it’s not an oil-based lube, as that can damage the condom.
5. Enjoy yourself
This last tip wasn’t mentioned by our fabulous sex doctor Danae, but here at Metro, we thought it important to mention.
Enjoy yourself.
You’re never going to squirt if you spend the whole time putting pressure on yourself to do so. Sex is meant to be enjoyable and fun, or romantic and sensual – whatever you want it to be.
Don’t get frustrated with yourself if you don’t squirt; it may take a few attempts.
If you can’t, it also doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you either. You aren’t a porn star, you’re a woman having realistic sex – and it’s important to remember that.
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